In my younger days, I went through more than my share of relationships where the lows were so…..well, low, but the highs made life worth living. I felt it was related to self-esteem issues but only today, recognize that this wasn’t it at all.
There’s a quirk of the brain’s reward circuit, a primitive neural network that is extremely sensitive to various rewards, two of which are love and sex. The key is that the reward is unanticipated, which makes it particularly powerful and seductive to our brains.
Unpredictable rewards produce more dopamine release than predictable ones, which means more pleasure.
Read this fascinating New York Times article, I Heart Unpredictable Love.
About the author
Robin Barr is a business owner, animal lover, information and resources junkie, and a fan of innovation. She's also the inventor of award-winning Cold Sores Begone™, an instant preventative, and Canker Sores Begone™, a healing accelerator. A boomer and ENFP, Robin lives in Mission Viejo, Calif.